Erotic Hypnosis or Mind Fucking

Michelle writes:

For my 50th, a whole bunch of my friends decided to hit the town when I came back a bit worse for wear, my friend who has a psychology degree and took me home said she could hypnotise me to stop smoking. I went along with it and dont remember anything about the night but ever since that night I keep having INCREDIBLY EROTIC dreams featuring my friend hypnotising me with the glass pendant she used. The dreams always end up me begging to be hypnotised and us making love. I am worried that she gave me a post hypnotic trance as I have never had these feelings before and I am certain ly not gay. I dont know what to do as I dont want to ruin our friendship but neither of us would be hurting anyone as im recently divorced and my friend is single.

There has been a couple of times I have almost spoken to her regarding this but I keep getting distracted when she  plays with her glass pendant necklace.

please help as this is making me a bit of a mess at the moment!!!

Awww I’m sorry this happened to you Michelle.  It truly sounds like your friend did make you the recipient of a post-hyponotic suggestion.  But the only way to know for sure is to ask her if she did something when she hypnotized you.  The fact that your friend did this when you had both been drinking is completely unethical even in erotic hypnosis circles.  It’s even possible that she gave you suggestions that she didn’t mean to become post-hypnotic suggestions.  Just because someone has a psychology degree doesn’t make them able to handle hypnosis. I have a degree in psychology but I also have several degrees in hypnosis that I did additionally on my own.  Psychology slightly touches hypnosis but not in any way that a person can say they can hypnotize someone.  Even medical doctors know the basics of hypnosis but it doesn’t mean they can do it properly.  Remember you’re dealing with someone’s mind. That’s not small potatoes. You better hope that the person who’s working with you knows what the hell they’re doing.  Sounds like your friend didn’t.

That said, you need to confront her. I wouldn’t necessarily say anything about the erotic dreams right off the bat.  Just tell her that since she hypnotized you it drives you nuts when she plays with her pendant.  Tell her you want to know if she did any post-hypnotic suggestions.  Tell her you want her to tell you what they were, not the other way around.  You see this is on her right now, not you.  She’s the one who was playing around inside your mind so she has to answer for whatever it was she did because she did it without consent.

In most cases I always say, ‘always be open and honest and always come from the standpoint of how the issue makes YOU feel,’ that way people don’t get defensive shut down.  And although I don’t suggest coming down on her because if you do you’ll never find out what she did, if she even remembers, you still need to let her know that it wasn’t cool but not til you get the answers you need.  So if you want to find out, you’ll have to be super happy and pretend it’s all a big joke (which it’s not) so she opens up with you.

Now if it comes around to the erotic part and you figure out that she actually DID plant that seed then find out why and take it from there. Remember we are all inherently bi-sexual we just all fall on a sliding scale that can change depending on the situation.  So no this doesn’t make you gay unless you’re having romantic feelings towards your friends such as falling in love with her.  Problem with this situation is, no matter what you’re feeling, it was started on a lie and betrayal.  You don’t know if the feelings you’re having concerning this lady are even your own.  So keep that in mind.  However if the opportunity presents itself and you’re both okay with it, go for it! Have fun. Enjoy life.  And don’t be so concerned about labels.

Michelle wrote back a bit later with this reply:

I would like to thank you regarding the advice you gave me to confront my friend who I believed gave me an unwanted post hypnotic dreams when she hypnotised me. I informed her this evening after she continued to play with her pendant yet again that I know what she did and hated her for it. she immediately apologised and informed me that she had a crush on me but would not do anything to affect my relationship with my husband who I divorced after 30 wonderful years (we just grew apart) and saw this as her chance. she told me that she hypnotised me and removed my smoking habit but afterwards she said (although she knew it was wrong) she asked me a few questions. She Asked me if I found hypnosis arousing in which I stated yes and admitted the only post hypnotic suggestion she gave me would be that I would have an erotic dream that night of my choice. she believes that in my subconscious I always wanted to be hypnotised and it finally gave my mind a chance to break out (I came from a very repressed Catholic family) she started playing with her pendant and asked me if I want to be hypnotised.  I breathlessly stated yes.

I could not look away at the pendant and her voice was like honey. she asked me many questions and this time (thanks to her new post hypnotic suggestion) I remember them. she asked me when I first became aroused with hypnosis and I advised I was 10 when saw an old 60s b movie on the telly in the 70s and the woman was hypnotised to remember a terrible event. she asked me why this was and I said ‘because she is free’

after the hypnosis we made love. I had never been so wet in my entire life. she then asked if I wanted to be hypnotised again and I said yes. during hypnosis I explained that I informed you of this whole situation.  She was glad I spoke to someone but asked me if I could be given another post hypnotic suggestion which this time I fully agreed with. I am typing this on my phone in debras bed with debra beside me completely naked and masturbating at the same time (hence mistakes) I have never felt so free and thank you for helping me

How’s that for a happy ending?! 😉