So many people suffer with chronic illness and do so silently. That may seem strange to you if you’re healthy but there is a stigma surrounding chronic illness’s such as Lupus, Multiple Sclerosis, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Fibromyalgia, Epstein Barr Virus, Lyme Disease, DEPRESSION and hell I’m even going throw in Menopause. The stigma comes in when the disease/illness isn’t obvious. Our society associates illness with runny noses, broken bones and trauma – things we can see. However the illnesses I just mentioned don’t necessarily have visual effects, it’s not obvious that the person is suffering, yet suffering they are I can assure you. But what about the people who say, “You don’t look sick. You’re probably doing it for attention”
I’m joined by two very brave ladies of our community Ms Toxic Goddess and Miss Taphophile, both of whom are suffering from one or more of these illnesses. Why do I say they’re brave? Because of the stigma I just mentioned but lets add another element to this. Both of these ladies are Dominatrixes. How can you be strong and confident when you feel like crap? And doesn’t that make them less effective? Are they less of a Domme if they aren’t feeling strong? Unfortunately there are people who would say if you’re sick you suck.
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@DoctorSue Man, this was such a great show. Thank you again for thinking of us who have invisible illness’!
— Princess Brandis (@PrincessBrandis) February 22, 2016
@DoctorSue thank you for the name check and what an excellent show. Thank you for bringing this to the fore.
— Miss Beth (@miss__beth) February 19, 2016
While all her podcasts are worth a listen, but this one is especially important, as I don’t see this discourse (1/2) https://t.co/JW6uiE5wV8
— Ms. Inara Stark (@MsInaraStark) February 19, 2016
Another FABULOUS Show from the amazing @DoctorSue A woman who is not afraid to deal with ANY Issue. Big or Small!
— Madame Sossette (@PuppetMistressS) February 19, 2016
An email from Darla Donna was sent to me about the show, this is that email:
Dr. Sue,
Thank you again for holding a show on the non-sexy taboo topic of chronic illnesses and sexualty/kink/Dommes. There are a lot of people, like my wife and I, who suffer from the effects of this and don’t go parading it about because of the stigma you and your guests so rightly pointed out.
The stigma so mentioned is yet another effect on our lives. In addition to the illness this stigma is the fear by others that because she is sick, she can’t handle normal life activities and should be avoided.
This would make me really angry at their pig-headed, prejudicial response, but I’m forced to moderate myself because, regardless of our desires on the matter, it is somewhat true.
Is she, even now, capable of amazing things? Yes definitely.
Should she be given the chance to do them? Yes again.
If she wasn’t sick, would they be easier for her to do? Would her results be of higher quality? Saddly yes. The illness sucks time and effort that could be channeled into improving her activities.
Now my wife is an amazing Lady capable of work far exceeding normal people’s efforts. When she works under the Handicap of Fibromyalgia she still exceeds most normal people’s top efforts but just not by as much.
I suspect this is true of the two Dommes you interviewed too. I have no doubt they provide quality Domination services that get the job done. Services that the stigma of illness would attempt to block them from even attempting.
This Illness Stigma is wrong on many levels. If you get the result you want, what does it matter if it was harder for the person to do. We should not let our fears punish the sick, especially when they’ll still get the job done well.
Giving in to this Stigma is wrong and immoral. Historically when you see a cripple or leper in the streets, do you kick them and tell them to get a job? No, you extend compassion and understanding.
Just like those who suffer are asking for today.
Thank you,
-Darla Donna
What a fab show! Thank you Ladies for bringing some much needed coverage to issues like this. I too don’t talk about my issues openly mainly because people don’t take my disease seriously but also because I used to be afraid that people (subs) would turn and run. After hearing your stories it’s empowered me to think fuck it! You don’t like that I have this then that’s your issue not mine. My limited energy is better spent on those that are willing to see past that. Wish you all the very best. Stay strong.
HI Dr. Sue – it’s Pamperpants. Just so you all know ( Ms Toxic Goddess and Miss Taphophile included), I too suffer from multiple afflictions. Following a serious car accident in 2013, I was diagnosed with PTSD, herniated disks and compressed vertebrae in my neck and lower back, causing chronic pain, as well as depression that was only discovered during my treatment for PTSD, and is the result of having been raised in abusive home. Suffice to say, I completely understand what it’s like to live with chronic illness, and we use certain lifestyle techniques to both cope and mask the effects.
Thank you P! I hope you can join the show tomorrow!